Saturday, March 14, 2026

Traveling with Parents

 

So I realize that I only posted once on the blog last year and that means I probably only have to post once this year to keep the habit going. And my dad keeps asking me to write stories I tell him for the blog, and he’s also asked me to send him the photos I took in Guatemala (which I have not yet done), because that is where we went to celebrate him arriving at his 70 year of life. We were supposed to go to Malta, but his wife, my mother, decided that she has spent to many hours of her life on trans-Atlantic flights and too many wakeful jet lagged nights. So she plotted against us and convinced Dad that Guatemala would scratch his wanderlust itch and fulfill a life long dream while achieving her goal of joining in on the fun without changing time zones. She did an impressive amount of work (one conversation) to convince him and then he spent a lot of time on the internet planning the trip. So in the end, Mom and I went on the trip having mostly no idea where we would be visiting, but trusting to Dad and the youtube videos that he found interesting. My contribution was teaching them how to use airbnb and Uber, using my international sim card, and my transaction-fee-less atm card. I also bought a couple of interesting books on Mayan civilization, which Dad and I read while we were wandering their old empire.



I will not write about each place that we visited, but Dad planned a great trip and I think you should definitely visit Flores, Tikal, Antigua, and Panajachel if you go to Guatemala, which you should absolutely do during your lifetime.






My favorite place we visited was probably Tikal because I have long loved the ancient civilizations and the mystery of the end of the Mayan Empire always piques my interest. Seeing their 4 tallest buildings poking up over the top of the jungle canopy was fascinating, as was remembering that these buildings were hidden for years and almost completely forgotten—it’s hard to believe when you’re down on the ground looking up at them, but when you climb up to the top of the buildings and see the other 3 well over the tree tops but nothing else except trees for miles, you can kind of get it.




Anyway, this is not a travel blog encouraging you to go visit other places. If it were, it is failing. None of you have ventured out to visit me in my various homes around the world, always in peak tourist destinations like South Sudan and Chad. This is a blog to make fun of my parents trying to speak Spanish to Guatemalans and ending up speaking in Indonesian instead…just kidding, it’s not. I already  made fun of them to my sisters who can appreciate it because they also speak Indonesian and enough Spanish to know which is which. My parents spoke excellent Spanish back in the day. They studied in Costa Rica, but unfortunately left just before I could be born there and get a Costa Rican passport, which would have been really cool to have. My mom thinks it wouldn’t have been fun to have a baby in San Jose in the 80’s, but she would have been fine. And now who is suffering? Me. With only 1 passport. (Maybe if I had two passports, I could have had a travel blog…)




Guatemalan bajaj


Back to the language mixing, it is not usually something I do, so I tended to be the one explaining to them that it will not help to yell louder over the boat engine, the driver did not understand you when you asked him what is over there in Indonesian. I will admit however, to pronouncing Spanish words starting out with a French accent on the first syllable but a Spanish one at the end because you actually have to pronounce all the letters at the end of a word in Spanish, which you do not have to do in French. Also, I am fully prepared to admit that my parents speak much  better Spanish than I do. However, I was gratified when the driver asked to speak with me on the phone, presumably because he decided that while my dad understood him better, he understood me better with my limited Spanish vocabulary that was not interspersed with Indonesian words. I was possibly slightly less gratified when he spoke to me on the phone like this “Voy…a…hablar…mas…despacio….” I mean, it was helpful though…



But the good thing is that my travel habits have been developed over the years out of my own parents’ travel habits so we travel well together. We do not want a guide to tell us every single detail he has memorized about every inch of every building we are visiting. We are fine oohing and ahhing in our own ignorance and looking up things that we are curious about later. We like to try new foods and are not afraid of a good street food option. We like to walk and explore. We are all cheapskates but as we get older and realize we can’t take it with us, we spend a little more than we would have back in the day. Dad said, “It’s just a little less for your inheritance later,” which I’m fine with because I would probably have spent it traveling around somewhere interesting anyway. But sorry to the sisters who are also getting less now…






I would also like to shout out to my Mom who is a tiny bit older than my Dad and easily walked over 20,000 steps in a day. All her friends were amazed. She would also ask me questions sometimes like “is ‘apa ini’ Spanish?” (It is not.) I told my sisters because it reminded us of when our grandmother visited Indonesia back in the day and before going in a toilet, she wanted to make sure she was going in the right room, and in her genteel Tennessee southern accent called over to my dad, “Does ‘pria’ mean ‘ladies’?” and he said, “Try it and see!” (It does not mean ‘ladies.’)



Anyway, I’m back in Africa now and the parents are back in the US. We are back to normal life, which means dog walks and church stuff and grandkids (plus all the other volunteer activities they are doing at schools and charities) for them and visa issues, airplane-acquired colds, and emails for me. I did have a fun trip with Ethiopians to Kenya for a conference on fluoride, which might be fun to write about if I can motivate myself to write about it someday. This blog is for my dad, out of guilt for not sending him all the Guatemala photos he has asked for yet. Hopefully this will appease him for a few more months.



In June 2026, they will have been married for 50 years, so I took some romantic photos...

Antigua

Who would guess that minutes before this photo,
they were arguing about who interrupted whom
and who wasn't listening to whom...true love...






Dad loves a good boat trip...

He was very entertained by visiting a village that 
is also called San Pedro...



We walked 22,000+ steps this day in Panajachel-
not a problem for these old guys...

Volcanos and tropical flowers--a big part of our lives... 





Thursday, January 9, 2025

2024

I had a pretty busy year in 2024 and I didn’t blog as much as I thought I would or as much as I hoped I would. I actually didn’t think I would suddenly turn into a disciplined writer in 2024, but I had a vague hope about it. I thought I should give a quick run down for posterity because in my old age I’m becoming more forgetful and maybe someday I’ll want to remember it.




Speaking of old age, I turned 40 in 2024. When I was a kid in the 90’s, it was somewhat en vogue for the expat community in Indonesia to celebrate 40th birthdays with black balloons and “over the hill” jokes. I remember singing the somber rendition of the happy birthday song suggesting death was imminent for those 40 and above. As a child, I found this hilarious. As an adult, recently turned 40, I do not feel particularly close to death, though passing a semi-truck on a blind curve in a dark tunnel in northern Tajikistan was a moment and being told “now cover up your whole face so they can’t see we have a white person with us” while driving through Boko Haram territory in Nigeria was another. But here I still am.


I do think that when you hit milestone birthdays (for me those seem to be decade birthdays for whatever reason), you do tend to look back and feel the passing of time. It’s been those birthdays when I look at where I am and think about where I thought I’d be at this age and what I have and haven’t achieved. I haven’t taken a very typical road, and sometimes I feel a moment of missing what I don’t have, what I thought I’d certainly have by this age, and what I’m not likely to have at this point. I don’t think it is honest to say “I have no regrets about anything” but even the things that I wouldn’t do again if I had the chance, I wouldn’t go back and change them even if I could because I learned from them and they are a part of who I am now. 


Anyway, enough deep thoughts…I didn’t celebrate 40 with black balloons. Instead I visited my last continent with an old friend who is always up for a crazy adventure. And then once I realized work and life got me to every other continent except Australia, I decided to go back to Australia to visit more dear friends and be a part of what I deem an elite club of people who had enough time and disposable income and ability to ignore the problems that come with lack of sufficient sleep to visit all 7 continents in one year. 


So here is 2024 with special thanks to my camera roll that allows me to see the photos I took each month so I can remember where I was when.



January:

I started it where I am now with Marian and her family, ringing in the new year with nieces and nephews who love it when Auntie babysits because she lets them eat as much junk food as they want and never makes them get off the screens. Special thanks to Charis and the family dog who are always up for a long walk while the others continue to rot brains and bodies before their loving parents return and reinstate all the rules.


From the US, I went back to Chad where I was visited by the neverthirst CEO, his son, and a new colleague. We had a successful trip until the last day when the hotel I put them in was raided by the police and my new colleague was miserably sick for 24 hours +. I already wrote about this.


Festival Dary is a highlight when Chad celebrates its diversity.
It's in January, and I'm missing it this year because of meetings. 


The CEO, his son, and my soon to be poisoned new coworker.


Then at the end of the month I flew to Argentina and boarded a boat for Antarctica!


Thanks to Debbie for always being up for the crazy stuff.


February:

Started in Antarctica with the penguins and other less important wildlife. It was beautiful, I already wrote about this too. I started off the year strong with the blog!



Also visited Uruguay briefly. 



Then back to Chad where my friends planned an epic celebration which brought together people from 6 or so countries, my two dogs, and the river I love to play in, which has given me the gift of schistosomiasis according to blood tests I did later in the year in Australia. 



February ended with me in Ethiopia for a donor trip.




March:


Ethiopia is always fun but the rest of the month I was back in Chad, spending a lot of time swimming in the river with the dogs, trying to beat the heat. Dreaming of ways to clean it up, and I’m still dreaming of that.





April:

More river time, less electricity (the worst it has been since I’ve lived in Chad but thank God for our solar power), celebrating Eids with Muslim friends and birthdays with deaf friends.



Ended April in Zanzibar where I promised Claire I would go with her even though I’ve already been. Naomi joined and we had fun even though we discovered the level of incompetence at Kenya Airways had exceeded the highest levels we had imagined and Naomi spent too much of the holiday in the same clothes, waiting for her suitcase to arrive. (Never fly Kenya Airways!)



May: 


Made it back to Chad for more river time, mango season, Manon’s birthday, Chad elections (a very unfunny joke).



I ended May in Cambodia for a neverthirst meeting. I loved bringing Africans to Asia. Loved being back in Asia having rice for breakfast every day and morning runs through rice fields. 


Kadessou and Ayouba at Angkor Wat! 
I thought I had blogged about this, but I only started one that I didn't finish.


See? We had meetings too, not just all fun times.


Kadessou learned what it feels like when random people
come up to take your photo because you are cool and exotic.



Ayouba bravely tried deep fried spiders with me

June:


Started June in Cambodia. Got back to Chad in time for Claire’s birthday, another Eid, a last minute trip to Elephant Rock with Manon, David and Emelie before all of them left! 




Road tripping to Elephant Rock


Got the truck stuck in the sand (dug it out with lot of people helping)



Joe loves the car



Mahabba was born and I am his unofficial Auntie Oyinbo.



Debbie got to come to Chad for work, break a few hearts, see a hippo in real life, and not get any decent photos with me. 


Here is a photo of Pika who hasn't featured enough 
because she gets carsick and doesn't go on long road trips.


July:


Manon left for a year in France and we are still missing her! 



Rainy season floods make driving in Chad more exciting.


Meant to put in a photo of flooded roads, but liked this one more.
Abiner takes good care of my handicapped puppy.


August:


Finally made a trip to visit Rhyan after many years of discussion. We met up in Portugal and I got to meet her sister, brother in law and their adorable child. Always great to be back with old friends!




Ran a 2km marathon with Jesse in N’Djamena and won for being the oldest woman who ran the race.

Blogged about this too earlier


Telling the reporters that I just ran fast,
didn't stop for the whole 2km race,
while also being super old, and that was my strategy.


Recorded music with Kazeem.




August was very Nigeria focused—I finished August dodging crocodiles and Boko Haram in Nigeria.


He helpfully put the croc on the ground so it could
chase us around a bit.


I mean what a great disguise, right?
You would have no idea that there was a white girl in the car.


Lovely village that hosted us when our car broke down in Boko Haram territory


September:


The first of September I flew back to Chad and enjoyed a few moments at home before I headed off to Tajikistan. I had a great time visiting a potential partner there and eve better they agreed to help me fulfill a childhood dream of visiting Samarkand, just across the border in Uzbekistan. They even added a quick trip to Bukhara, which I may have liked even more. I should have blogged about this trip. It was amazing, but life was a bit nonstop until…well, a couple weeks ago, and by that time I was already in the US for Christmas and not wanting to spend a lot of time on my computer chronicling my life.


You know it's going to be a great trip
when your seatmate gets her cats out.





We were given so many presents.
Here is fresh naan!


The Registan




Bukhara--see the cool young kid at the end?
It's his dream to be an exchange student in the US.
Anyone got any contacts? Let me know!


October:


I was supposed to go to Niger, but I didn’t get my visa because Niger is mad at Americans right now and they accidentally on purpose did not sign the papers in time. I mean, I know why they’re mad, and I get it, and they’re right to be miffed, but I didn’t do anything and they know I’ve been there many times without causing any problems. 


Instead, I stayed in Chad and caught malaria, which was bad timing since Claire was in the UK. I survived, thought, thanks to my Chad village that includes Antani, training to be a nurse, and Mikael, training to be a doctor, and others who sent help from a far. Merci beaucoup à vous tous!


November:


I headed out to Bangladesh on the first, and I caught the inaugural flight for Ethiopian Airlines from Addis to Dhaka! I got presents from the airline and many cameras in our tired traveling faces.


Receiving gifts from the Bangladesh partners,
gifts from Ethiopian Airlines not pictured.




I enjoyed my time in Bangladesh with more great food. I had been craving dumplings since I had malaria and they served momos for breakfast at the hotel so right off the bat I was pretty happy. And thanks to the Sri Lankans who made sure that my constant cravings for pani poori were satisfied as well.







From Bangladesh, I decided that I was close enough to get to Australia and to make it seem like I was doing it for Reasons and not just to hit all the continents in one year, I did a lot of medical stuff. Best of all, I got to see old friends I haven’t seen in 5(?) years and meet their youngest daughter, this time out of the womb, and re-meet the older daughter at an age where she will likely remember me now. 




I made it back to Chad just in time for Esther’s wedding, which I was happy not to miss.


Abiner was a great wedding escort--he got us there an hour early.


Thanks to Claire for spending Thanksgiving with me even though she is British. She was happy to eat turkey and mozzarella sticks with cranberry sauce and make cinnamon rolls with cream cheese icing. 



Finished November making masala dosa with Darshita and Jo!




December:


Bittersweet time finishing projects in Uganda, but mostly sweet because we were celebrating good things, going on safari with the Feat Africa team, and planning for a few more visits to the Pearl of Africa.



Known this guy for more than a decade now!




The Nile River was as full as I've ever seen it.
The boats were right outside my door.


Back to Chad and less than a week later back in the air on the way to the US because flights were filling up fast. 


Thomas kids are too cool to smile.
But we had a great time.


Now it is January and I’m in Virginia until the 6th and then the 8th I leave for Chad and then land on the 10th and then 12th I’m off to Dubai for a day and back on the 15th. Already planning Ethiopia for early February so this year looks to get me spending a lot of time in airports again. As we say in Chadian French and possibly also real French French (I can’t verify with Manon because she is now in France and anyway everyone there keeps making fun of her French, which is now very African), “ça va aller!” 


The twins on their birthday with their new dog!

Bonne année à vous tous! Or for me it is better to say “Selamat Tahun Baru” because I usually celebrate New Years in Indonesian since our tradition is to make Indonesian food and call Ati on NYE. May the Lord bring you Good things in 2025.



Traditional bala-bala with Charis!



Actually NOW I am in the airport, waiting for my flight to DC where I have to spend the night because of Ethiopian Airlines schedule being annoyed with people who listen to stuff on their phones out loud. Can we make that illegal? See you soon, Africa, I hope! Looking forward to some warm weather!